Although my husband didn’t like me, his wife to control his actions it seemed as though he felt it was okay for his parole officer, correction officer and even the warden to control him. This was sad, he was no longer the man I fell in love with; he was a boy whose actions needed to be monitored. His role as my husband diminished to merely a child.
Unfortunately when my husband got convicted the money he made quickly depleted and everyone that hung around begin to dwindle away leaving me to provide the emotional, physical and financial support. He would need money for commissary, which consisted of food, toiletries, clothing, paper supplies phone calls, and postage stamps etc. I would also have to deal with the cost of visiting him because the prison system never imprisons an inmate close to home. Most inmates are sent miles away. I would try very hard to keep the family together so I would visit as much as my pockets allowed; each time wondering when this will all be over. A prison visit is not as pleasant as most television shows portray, it is actually much more degrading. Some prisons do not allow contact visits so you can only see the inmate through plexi glass. These kind of visits do not require intensive search procedures, actually they hardly search you at all. However, if you have a contact visit meaning you can physically touch the inmate you go through a more intensive search. When you have a contact visit you may undergo a random car search as soon as you park at the correctional facility lot. You’re told that you cannot wear certain types of clothing and are also sent through metal detectors. If you beep you have to remove the item that is causing it, i.e. under wire bra, jeans with excessive buttons, jewelry etc. (so I would usually bring a change of clothes) once you’re done with that you may have to take a random residue test. They swipe each visiting person’s clothes and hands (children included) and trace for drug residue. Since all money carries at least .1% of drug residue on it, let’s hope you don’t have any because your visit will no longer be contact and changed to a no contact visit. Once, and if you pass that, you are now able to proceed to the visiting floor. Seems easy but during the visit you may have a random dogs sniffing you and your children.
Here is a video of a show called prison wives that airs on the Discovery ID channel. It gives more insight on the taboo prison relationship.