Monday, January 8, 2018



Many people use the New Year as a time to change old habits and start off fresh. It's a pretty good time indicator to start a new, but we all have the power to change habits as soon as we feel it is necessary for our lives, we have made a cheat sheet of habits to eliminate from your life, and will change it for the better. 

  1. People Pleasing- Live life pleasing your self, it's not being selfish. Living your life pleasing other people and fulfilling their standard is the fastest way to be unhappy. Embrace how full you feel when you please yourself and stay in that place, also consider how long that feeling lasts verse when you please other people. 
  2. Playing Small- One thing many people marginalized people are taught is to shrink themselves, to either fit in, assimilate and not draw attention to themselves. This is a tool that works very well for oppressive systems like racism, sexism, anti-gay and anti-trans behavior to continue, and to ignore the needs of these groups. Women, in particular, are told to shrink themselves, and fed ideas like Be Lady Like to mute your being. Stop doing this as soon as possible, take up space, be heard and seen as much as possible. 
  3. Procrastinating-  If you put everything off for later eventually nothing will get done. Usually, procrastination is fueled by anxiety to start a task, it's  more than just not starting a project. It's helpful to create routines or break large tasks into smaller ones to curve the onset of procrastination. Remember, the only thing in life you can't get back is time, so treat your time like a priceless commodity.
  4. Living in the Past- Most depressive feelings (non-clinical) can be birthed from living in the past. Understand you can't change the past, but you can take steps in the present to heal from it. Progress works by combatting things in the now. Many times people live in the past because they have never confronted them and taken the steps to leave them behind them. If this step is a hard one to overcome, seek therapy if. Therapy is a great form of self if it's financially attainable. 
  5. Perfectionism This doesn't exist,  actually it will never exist and that is fine. When you strive for perfectionism, you will always fall short because you are reaching for something unattainable. Why set yourself up for horrible feelings? The best way to deal with a false sense of perfectionism is understanding there are things in life that are out of your control, another is by getting over yourself. Don't take yourself too seriously, it makes things a bit easier. 


What bad habits are you trying to quit now? Let u know in the comments below! 

By Queen 
Queen is a 30 something from the Bronx, NY. She created Ms. Vixen to spread her thoughts on feminism, Black pride, it's the first stop on her quest to be a media mogul. 
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