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As we all get older and make changes in our lives, it changes the landscape of our friendships as well. Some of our "down for whatever" friends have changes in their lives that change the relationship. You may see your friends less and the social activities you use to enjoy together may not be how you'll hang out now, and that's a natural thing.
As a child, I made most of my friends at school and in the mosque I attended. These were spaces where I had continuous contact with the same people who had a similar interest or background. As children, our parents or guardians generally set these kinds of spaces up for us. They decide where we lived and the places we went, but the common occurrence is the continuous interaction you have with the people in these social settings. This is is how we build relationships.
So why does it seem harder to make friends as an adult? I think as an adult we care a lot more what people think and we carry baggage from past traumas. Also, we don't generally create social settings our parents created for us as children. We tend to go out communally, which deters us from meeting new people. As children, we went into our many social settings alone and had to make friends there. This doesn't happen often as adults unless you move to another city. Mirroring how we made friends as children can make it easier to start this process as an adult.
Here are some ways I think are helpful for making friends as an adult